Frequently Asked Questions
Where do you conduct your sessions?
I use a number of different spaces. At present, this includes a variety of dungeon spaces in both Midtown Manhattan and North Brooklyn as well as a vanilla space on the Upper East Side. If you have a strong preference for one of these please let me know.
How much do you charge for sessions?
See my Booking & Contact page.
How much notice do you need?
I prefer as much as possible.
Last minute sessions sometimes available, but anything booked with less than three hours notice will incur a rush fee of $50 - 150. When booking last minute please be prepared to send the deposit immediately.
Can I be your personal slave?
I only accept personal slaves from among regular, frequent clients and on top of that you have to prove to me that you are reliable, respectful, and generous. Also, I have to kinda like you. If you're looking to be a personal slave because you can't afford sessions, I am not the domina for you. If you're a regular client who would enjoy serving me in a personal capacity on top of our sessions, you might be exactly what I'm looking for.
If I accept you as a personal slave, do not expect free play or constant attention while you perform your tasks.
About Me
What are your favorite activities?
Ballbusting! In general, I tend to enjoy more intense sessions involving severe torture or humiliation.
How long have you been a professional Mistress?
Just over a decade.
How old are you?
Thirty. My birthday is August 1st. Buy me a present.
What is your height and weight? Your cup size?
I'm five foot three. I wear a 32DD bra and yes, they're natural. I never weigh myself and don't know how much I weigh. My photos are accurate, have minimal to no retouching, and there are a lot of them. I very often post candids to my twitter. You know what I look like. You don't need a number.
What is your shoe size?
I am usually an 8.5, but can be an 8 or 9 depending on the width of the shoe. I have very wide, strong feet.
What is your ethnicity?
Russian, Welsh, German and English.
Are you kinky in your personal life?
Yes. I mostly stay out of the "scene" but I am very sadistic and enjoy dominating the men I am personally involved with. (And no, that doesn't mean I'll date you.)
What are your non-BDSM interests?
I enjoy reading, writing, science museums, art galleries and good IPAs. I love to travel.
Booking, Location & Fees
I'm worried about privacy and am uncomfortable going to a dungeon. Can we session out of an apartment instead?
Yes, I do have access to a private apartment space. However, I will need at least a day's notice to set it up and unfortunately it's not stocked for BDSM so equipment will be limited.
I'm nervous about going to a dungeon because I don't want to get beaten up!
Just because it's in a dungeon and I have a reputation as a sadist doesn't mean I'm going to non-consensually beat you up. Many of my sessions don't involve pain at all. I do lots of verbal humiliation and I also see fetishists who aren't into BDSM. I take limits very seriously, and I will never hurt someone who isn't asking for it. Just tell me if you're not into pain and I will respect that.
Do you accept debit or credit cards? Can I pay your entire session fee online when I send the deposit?
Nope. I do accept certain forms of online payment for distance training and deposits, but other than that I prefer cash.
Instead of giving you cash, can I buy gifts off your wishlist?
Nope. If you want to buy me gifts, buy me gifts. If you want my services, pay me.
Do you give discounts for long sessions?
I will give a discount for sessions three hours or longer on a case-by-case basis. Factors considered include incall rental fees, amount of expected downtime, and how much fun you sound like you're going to be. Outcalls discounted much more steeply.
I'm not submissive but I love feet. Do you have a discounted rate for simple foot fetish sessions?
Nope. My rate is my rate. Keeping my feet nice takes time and money, and offering a special rate for simple foot fetish sessions is a lot more trouble in practice than you'd think. Besides, I enjoy submissive men too much to give anyone a discount for not being submissive.
I want to see you but I can't afford your tribute. Will you give me a discount?
Nope. My rates are non-negotiable. I've decided what My time is worth, and you don't get to argue with that. Besides, I have many lovely submissives who pay My rate without complaint, and giving you a discount just for asking would be unfair to them.
If you cannot afford my rate, you can see someone cheaper, find a dominant woman to date, or tell your partner about your kinks and see if she's into them. Haggling is rude and will get you nowhere.
I'm trying to contact you and having some difficulty. What's up?
First, make sure you're using common sense. I might be in session, sleeping late, on the subway or just busy living my life. If I'm unable to get back to anyone for a while I often post the reason on my twitter.
If it's been a while and I still haven't answered your e-mail, consider your approach and make sure (1) you're not asking me to do anything illegal or in violation of my stated limits, (2) you're being polite and respectful, and (3) you're sending me at least a brief summary of what you're looking for. I get plenty of one-word e-mails I never answer them.
If you've wasted my time or been rude to me in the past, I'm ignoring you on purpose. Depending on your offense you might be able to get back in my good graces, but expect it to cost you.
If you often have difficulty getting a positive response from the Mistresses you contact, I suggest you read My Complete Newbie's Guide to Seeing Pro-Dommes.
Why did you ask me for a deposit?
I require deposits for all new friends as well as clients who have a history of cancellations. Unfortunately I am frequently contacted by timewasters who can wreck havoc on my schedule and I prefer to have my sessions secured with a deposit.
You asked me for a deposit. How do I know you won't take my money and vanish?
Faith. And the knowledge that after a decade of building my business I wouldn't risk my reputation just to steal fifty bucks.
I'm okay with giving you a deposit but I'm scared about my privacy!
For a small upcharge, I accept Amazon gift cards. You can purchase one in cash at your local supermarket or drugstore and send me the code.
I sent you a deposit and now I have to cancel! Can I use the deposit to book another session?
You may reschedule your session one time if you contact me at least 24 hours in advance of your expected session. You must reschedule at the time of your cancellation. If you need more time than that to figure out your schedule, you will need to send another deposit.
Session Questions
Do you do phone sessions?
Phone sessions are available via NiteFlirt. I'm not on that much, but contact me and we can set up an appointment to talk. If NiteFlirt is not an option for you, I can accept payment via other methods.
Do you see novices?
I see submissives and fetishists of all experience levels. If you are new to seeing professional Mistresses, read this before you contact Me.
Do you do outcalls?
I do! Two things to keep in mind: First, I am in the habit of sessioning out of fully-stocked dungeons and my personal supply of equipment is limited. Second, I may need more notice for outcalls since the travel time may be different.
I have a specific wardrobe request. Can you accommodate it?
I'm happy to accommodate outfit requests as long as I have the items on hand. If not, you can bring items for me to wear in session. My fetish wardrobe includes a number of latex items, thigh-high boots in both leather and vinyl, corsets, garter belts, stockings, pantyhose and a variety of high heels. Most of my wardrobe is on display in my gallery.
Do you do sessions where you are submissive?
No. I do not switch or submit for anybody.
I'm interested in forced bi. Do You have a man I can suck off?
As fun as that would be, providing you with a male hooker is pandering, a fairly serious offense. Not to mention the scheduling issue and the chicken rate. I am open to sessions with couples of all genders and orientations.
I'm interested in cuckolding. Will you have sex with a guy in front of me?
Nope. I'm not comfortable with that. I am happy to discuss cuckolding, tell you all about the hot sex I have with my lovers, and humiliate you for being such a pathetic little cucky.
Do you do extended sessions?
Yes! Having a slave under My control for longer time periods is always exciting.
Instead of a normal session, I want to buy you dinner / a pedicure / shoes / whatever Your heart desires. Is this possible?
Sure. For dinner or drinks I charge a social time rate. If you want to take me shopping, be prepared to spend at least equivalent to that.
Will you do sessions in public?
Depends. I won't do anything illegal or that involves making strangers unduly uncomfortable. However, I can think of several fascinating scenarios that I would love to try. Forced intoxication at a bar, humiliation at a strip club, ballbusting under the table at a restaurant, lingerie shopping for you...
What should I expect if I come see you for a session?
An amazing experience.
I know that's not the answer you're looking for. Too bad.
I don't plan my sessions. With me, there's no such thing as a typical session, or a typical ballbusting session, or a typical crossdressing and humiliation session. Exactly what we do while playing depends on my whims and our chemistry.
I understand that you may want more detail than I'm willing to give. If you would like an in-depth session consultation, you can call me on Niteflirt, pay me to e-mail you a list of all my ideas, or do a social time session with me during which we can plan your scene. Yes, all of these options will cost you money.
Miscellaneous
How do I become one of your favorite clients?
Be a nice, respectful person and be fun in session. But also: I adore being spoiled. Send me something from one of my wishlists, or bring something to session. I especially like a nice dry red wine. Give good compliments. Send a thank you note after each session. Don't be needy. Always remember that it's all about me.
Can I be in your videos?
At this time I am not making my own videos. I appear in clips for a few different websites -- a list can be found here -- but I'm not in charge of choosing the submissives for those shoots. If I ever need video slaves, I will make that known. Until then, it's useless to contact Me as I will not remember you if/when the time comes.
I make fetish videos and would like to shoot with you. How do we arrange this?
Send me an e-mail with a description of what we will be shooting, a link to your website and the rate you are offering.
I'm a photographer and I'd like to shoot with you. How do we arrange this?
E-mail me a link to your portfolio. If I like your work and you're looking to shoot the sort of photos I can use for my advertising, I'm happy to shoot TFP. If not, we can discuss a modeling rate.
Will you sell me your used panties/stockings/socks/shoes? How much?
Yes. I love making a profit off my nasty old socks, panties, and the rest. Panties, stockings and socks are $50 a pair. Shoes are usually a bit more, depending on the shoe.
Will you ever visit my city?
Maybe, maybe not. If I had concrete plans it would be in my best interest publicize them. You can follow me on twitter or sign up for my mailing list if you want to be certain you don't miss my visit.
More questions? Send Me an e-mail.