Frequently Asked Questions
Most Frequently Asked
Where do you conduct your sessions?
I use a couple different commercial dungeons, all of which are located in Midtown, and are also clean, attractive, and well stocked. My personal favorite is Rubber Studio.
How much do you charge for sessions?
See my Booking & Contact page.
How much notice do you need?
Three hours minimum, always. I recommend you book earlier than that to avoid being disappointed. If you would like Me to have stinky feet or armpits, let me know the day before.
I prefer same-day sessions to be booked before six o'clock. I can sometimes be flexible, but booking before six greatly increases the chances of Me being available.
Will you session naked? / topless? / give me a handjob? / let me eat you out? / have sex with me?
No. I'm not interested in that. My sessions are strictly BDSM -- that means no nudity on my part and no sex acts. I do not provide a release and I do not allow clients to touch me intimately. New York City is home to many lovely and capable escorts with BDSM experience who would be happy to get your business, so there's no need to offend me by asking.
Can I be your personal slave?
I only accept personal slaves from among regular, frequent clients and on top of that you have to prove to me that you are reliable, respectful, and generous. Also, I have to kinda like you. Also, I have a male roommate and if having him around while you wash dishes makes you uncomfortable, you're not what I'm looking for. If you're lucky I might let you drop off lunch sometime.
If I accept you as a personal slave, do not expect free play or constant attention while you perform your tasks.
What are your favorite activities?
I tend to enjoy more intense sessions. I love playing the friendly sadist, being sweet while putting My slave through agony. I also enjoy heavy verbal humiliation and brat roleplay.
How long have you been a professional Mistress?
How old are you?
Twenty-seven. My birthday is August 1st. Buy Me a present.
What is your height and weight? Your cup size?
I'm five foot three. I wear a 32DD bra and yes, they're natural. I never weigh myself and don't know how much I weigh. My photos are accurate, have minimal to no retouching, and there are a lot of them. I very often post candids to my twitter. You know what I look like. You don't need a number.
What is your shoe size?
I am usually an 8.5, but can be an 8 or 9 depending on the width of the shoe. I have very wide, strong feet.
What is your ethnicity?
Russian, Welsh, German and English.
Are you kinky in your personal life?
Yes. I mostly stay out of the "scene" but I am very sadistic and enjoy dominating the men I am personally involved with. (And no, that doesn't mean I'll date you.)
What are your non-BDSM interests?
I enjoy reading, writing, science museums, brunch, and good IPAs. I love to travel.
Booking, Location & Fees
I'm worried about privacy and am uncomfortable going to a dungeon. Can we session out of an apartment instead?
Nope. I'm not comfortable bringing strangers to my home and I don't have my own play space or access to a play space in a residential apartment. The commercial dungeons I use are very discreet and look completely normal from the outside. Once inside, you won't have to see anyone but me. It's not any less private than going to a Mistress's apartment, and if you think it is you're probably kind of dumb.
I also offer outcalls as long as you have a reference from another provider.
I'm nervous about going to a dungeon because I don't want to get beaten up!
Just because it's in a dungeon and I have a reputation as a sadist doesn't mean I'm going to non-consensually beat you up. Many of my sessions don't involve pain at all. I do lots of verbal humiliation and I also see fetishists who aren't into BDSM. I take limits very seriously, and I will never hurt someone who isn't asking for it. Just tell Me if you're not into pain and I will respect that.
How much notice do you need?
Three hours minimum. I recommend you book earlier than that to avoid being disappointed. I strongly prefer same-day sessions to be booked before six o'clock. If you would like Me to have stinky feet or armpits, let me know the day before.
Do You accept debit or credit cards?
Nope. Too much trouble. Cash only.
Instead of giving you cash, can I buy gifts off your wishlist?
Nope. If you want to buy me gifts, buy me gifts. If you want my services, pay me.
Do you give discounts for long sessions?
I will give a discount for sessions three hours or longer on a case-by-case basis. Factors considered include incall rental fees, amount of expected downtime, and how much fun you sound like you're going to be.
I'm not submissive but I love feet. Do you have a discounted rate for simple foot fetish sessions?
Nope. My rate is my rate. Keeping my feet nice takes time and money, and offering a special rate for simple foot fetish sessions is a lot more trouble in practice than you'd think. Besides, I enjoy submissive men too much to give anyone a discount for not being submissive.
I want to see you but I can't afford Your tribute. Will you give me a discount?
Nope. My rates are non-negotiable. I've decided what My time is worth, and you don't get to argue with that. Besides, I have many lovely submissives who pay My rate without complaint, and giving you a discount just for asking would be unfair to them.
If you cannot afford my rate, you can see someone cheaper, find a dominant woman to date, or tell your partner about your kinks and see if she's into them. Haggling is rude and will get you nowhere.
I'm trying to contact you and having some difficulty. What's up?
First, make sure you're calling during my calling hours (noon to ten PM) and that you're calling from an unblocked number. I never answer blocked calls. Second, make sure you're using common sense. I might be in session, sleeping late, on the subway or just busy with My life, especially if it's a weekend. If I'm unable to get back to anyone for a while I often post the reason on my twitter. I also won't return your call if you don't leave a message, so keep that in mind.
Try texting or e-mailing, as I sometimes respond to those even if I can't talk on the phone.
If I don't answer your text or e-mail, consider your approach and make sure (1) you're not asking me to do anything illegal or in violation of my stated limits, (2) you're being polite and respectful, and (3) you're sending me at least a brief summary of what you're looking for. I get plenty of one-word e-mails and texts and I never answer them.
If you've wasted my time or been rude to me in the past, I'm ignoring you on purpose. Depending on your offense you might be able to get back in my good graces, but expect it to cost you.
If you often have difficulty getting a positive response from the Mistresses you contact, I suggest you read My Complete Newbie's Guide to Seeing Pro-Dommes.
Why did you ask me for a deposit?
If I don't know you, you can't supply a verifiable reference from a Mistress or other provider and any of the following applies, I may require a deposit:
- Your session requires considerable preparation. If, for example, you want Me to have extremely stinky feet and armpits, I can't shower for a while and I can't do regular foot sessions. If you don't show up, I've been considerably inconvenienced for nothing.
- Your session is very long. If I am going to clear my schedule for you, I need to know you'll show up.
- Something about our interactions has lead me to believe that you are not serious about sessioning. Like all pro-dommes, I am frequently contacted by people who book sessions and don't show up. If I think you might be one of them, I may require you to give me a reference or a deposit.
You asked me for a deposit. How do I know you won't take my money and vanish?
Faith. And the knowledge that after more than seven years of building My business I wouldn't risk My reputation just to steal a $50 Amazon gift card.
Do you do phone sessions?
Phone sessions are available via NiteFlirt. I'm not on that much, but contact me and we can set up an appointment to talk. If NiteFlirt is not an option for you, I can accept payment via other methods.
Do you see novices?
I see submissives and fetishists of all experience levels. If you are new to seeing professional Mistresses, read this before you contact Me.
Do you do outcalls?
I do outcalls to hotels and doorman buildings. Otherwise, I need to have sessioned with you at least once before or I will need a reference. Two things to keep in mind: First, I am in the habit of sessioning out of fully-stocked dungeons and My personal supply of equipment is limited. Second, I may need more notice for outcalls since the travel time may be different.
I have a specific wardrobe request. Can you accommodate it?
I'm happy to accommodate outfit requests as long as I have the items on hand. If not, you can bring items for me to wear in session. My fetish wardrobe includes a number of latex items, thigh-high boots in both leather and vinyl, corsets, garter belts, stockings, pantyhose and a variety of high heels. Most of My wardrobe is on display in my gallery.
Do You do sessions where you are submissive?
No. I do not switch or submit for anybody.
I'm interested in forced bi. Do You have a man I can suck off?
As much as that appeals to Me, providing you with a male hooker is pandering, a fairly serious offense. Not to mention the scheduling issue and the chicken rate. I am open to sessions with couples of all genders and orientations.
I'm interested in cuckolding. Will you have sex with a guy in front of me?
Nope. I'm not comfortable with that. I am happy to discuss cuckolding, tell you all about the hot sex I have with my lovers, and humiliate you for being such a pathetic little cucky.
Do you do extended sessions?
Yes! Having a slave under My control for longer time periods is always exciting. I may require a deposit for long sessions if we don't know each other and you can't provide references, since I will have to clear my schedule to fit you in.
Instead of a normal session, I want to buy you dinner / a pedicure / shoes / whatever Your heart desires. Is this possible?
Sure. For dinner or drinks I charge a social time rate. If you want to take me shopping, be prepared to spend at least equivalent to that.
Will you do sessions in public?
Depends. I won't do anything illegal or that involves making strangers unduly uncomfortable. However, I can think of several fascinating scenarios that I would love to try. Forced intoxication at a bar, humiliation at a strip club, ballbusting under the table at a restaurant, lingerie shopping for you...
Can I session with you immediately after you work out?
Many of My clients enjoy sweaty, stinky feet and armpits, so I get this request a lot. I don't go to the gym or work out so accommodating this is more trouble than it's worth. This doesn't mean I can't get My feet and armpits very stinky anyway. Because of the extra effort this can take during cooler months, I may require a deposit.
What should I expect if I come see you for a session?
An amazing experience.
I know that's not the answer you're looking for. Too bad.
I don't plan my sessions. With me, there's no such thing as a typical session, or a typical ballbusting session, or a typical crossdressing and humiliation session. Exactly what we do while playing depends on my whims and our chemistry.
I understand that you may want more detail than I'm willing to give. If you would like an in-depth session consultation, you can call Me on Niteflirt, pay Me to e-mail you a list of all my ideas, or do a social time session with Me during which we can plan your scene. Yes, all of these options will cost you money. If I didn't charge, I'd spend all my time having unpaid phone sex with wankers.
How do I become one of your favorite clients?
Be a nice, respectful person and be fun in session. But also: I adore being spoiled. Send me something from one of my wishlists, or bring something to session. I especially like a nice dry red wine. Give good compliments. Send a thank you note after each session. Don't be needy. Always remember that it's all about me.
Can I be in your videos?
At this time I am not making my own videos. I appear in clips for a few different websites -- see My links page to find them -- but I'm not in charge of choosing the submissives for those shoots. If I ever need video slaves, I will make that known. Until then, it's useless to contact Me as I will not remember you if/when the time comes.
I make fetish videos and would like to shoot with you. How do we arrange this?
Send Me an e-mail with a description of what we will be shooting, a link to your website and the rate you are offering. Please note that I will not be nude or perform sex acts of any kind.
I'm a photographer and I'd like to shoot with you. How do we arrange this?
E-mail me a link to your portfolio. If I like your work and you're looking to shoot the sort of photos I can use for my advertising, I'm happy to shoot TFP. If not, we can discuss a modeling rate. Again, please note that I will not be nude or perform sex acts.
Will you sell me your used panties/stockings/socks/shoes? How much?
Yes. I love making a profit off My nasty old socks, panties, and the rest. Panties, stockings and socks are $50 a pair. Shoes are usually a bit more, depending on the shoe.
Will you ever visit my city?
Maybe, maybe not. If I had concrete plans I'd publicize them. I tend to plan trips based on my own interests rather than work concerns, and truthfully if your city doesn't have at least one reasonably priced, easily rentable dungeon I probably won't bother to session there even if I do visit.
More questions? Send Me an e-mail.